I am a HUGE advocate for identity, empowerment, and self confidence. They are topics I touch on quite often – I just cannot get enough of it. Everyone at some point – often more times than not – have things in their life that they don’t like. They see others, are jealous, or say “I wish I was like this person!” or “I am so _________”. To me it is awful. These are lies you need to stop believing. Not just you, but myself also. We all face them at some point. Regardless of age, it happens to all of us.
First. “I am not good enough”
Okay, stop. Who told you that? Who made you believe that you are not qualified, not able, or less than the people around you. This is completely untrue, and needs to be squashed, instantly. You ARE good enough. You are just as unique than other everyone around you. There is a quote that I want to share with you – I saw it on a t-shirt. Talk about a smack in the face. You ARE good enough, and by believing otherwise you are wasting the person that you were created to be. Don’t try to be someone else when you were created uniquely you. Just be yourself, and embrace who you are. Embrace the one you are, and try to be the best version possible. Love yourself, love others, explore what you love, and who YOU are, and be excellent in it. You are worth. You are worth every moment you pour into getting to know yourself.
Second. “I CAN’T do it.”
A common line among many people, and probably one of my BIGGEST pet peeves is hearing it. Not that I never say it – sometimes I do, but I cringe even I hear it out of my own mouth. The first step to success, or accomplishing something is the belief that you can do it. There are power in your words. The more we say them, the more our actions, and abilities will follow them. The more you say you can’t do something, the more likely you are to not be able to do it. The more you say you CAN do it, the more likely you will be able to achieve what you are trying to do.
Change your words. Change your mindset of what you believe about yourself. Get to know who you are, understand you can do anything you put your mind to, and live like you believe it even when you do not. I am not saying ignore insecurities, and pretend they are not there. I am saying acknowledge them, and start shifting your beliefs.
“The more positively we think, the more positively we speak. The more positively we speak, the more positively we live.”
Be positive. About life, but first about you. Recognize your strengths, your gifts, and your abilities. Use them, embrace them, and do not be ashamed of them. It is not prideful to realize you are good at something, and say it. It is confidence, and awareness of who you truly are.
“When we say it about ourselves we are giving others permission to say it also.”
What are you saying about yourself? Instead of “you CAN’T” say “I CAN”. Instead of “I am not good enough” say “I AM good enough” — the more you say it the more you will believe it.
Like I have said so many time before;
“Confident people are the best looking people. Not because of how they look physically, but because of how they look internally which reflects externally.”
It has nothing to do with their appearance, but their inner view of themselves. It changes the way they look to others, and to themselves. Carry yourself with confidence. Find who YOU are, and love that person. It is not worth trying to be someone else when you were created as YOU!